Pride Goeth after the Falls

February 20, 2021

A few years ago, we took a hike with our friends, the Lees, to nearby Linda Falls. It was a disaster. Karisse ended with a pretty serious leg injury, and all four kids ended up getting hurt in some way. But of all the kids, it was definitely the worst for Elliot. He hit his head on a rock, tripped, and after the disastrous outing was over, he got a swing accidentally launched into that same head.

In fact, it was so bad that he proclaimed, “I never want to go to Linda Falls again!”

A few months later, he stuck to his guns. The Lees offered to take the kids on a hike. Alice went along, but Elliot, sensing danger again, refused to go.

But when his sister came back with tales of seeing bats inside a cave, he wept like he had been knocked in the noggin with a swing. We assured him that we would eventually go back to the bat cave, but then the pandemic hit, and his parents got busy, and everyone forgot about it until this weekend.

If you read my last post, you will note my fatherly guilt over our lack of outings. Well on Monday, we had the day off due to Presidents Day, and I thought it would be a great day to visit the bat cave. I was asking the Lees about how to get there, and Matthew kindly agreed to show me. When I told Elliot, he was excited about another chance for an at bat.

After lunch, we drove over to the Lee’s house, masked up, and walked over towards Linda Falls. Our crew was two dads and four kids. We wore sweatshirts and fleeces as it was a bit chilly out. The bat cave was less than a mile away. I was glad that we had guides, as it wasn’t exactly easy to find. A pile of rocks and a hole in the ground, with a fairly steep entry point. Matthew went in first and helped the kids get down inside the narrow space. At first we didn’t see any bats, but then I took my headlamp out and pointed it up above me. That’s when I noticed a furry puff ball just a foot or so away, hanging off the wall, completely still. I started looking around and saw about 5 or 6 more tiny bats, including one with long almost antenna-looking ears. The kids also found a number of spiders and a cave cricket.

Other than the moment when I cracked my head on the cave as I moved form one area to another, that part went along without a hitch. The hike and cave exploration probably took less than 30 minutes. After we got out of the cave, the bigger kids wanted to explore. Since we hadn’t taken very long, the dads obliged to let them explore down the fairly steep hillside to the creek below. Elliot was a little hesitant, as the rocks were slippery from water and moss, but he moved along well.

Eventually we got down to the water and navigated under branches and over rocks. It was getting hotter at this point, and breathing through masks made it tougher. I would have taken my sweatshirt off, but I needed my hands to grab onto Elliot and various rocks, and I also didn’t want to risk more exposed skin to poison oak. The kids were having no problem at all, moving like a traveling Parkour troupe. Wanting to keep up with the older three, Elliot was doing phenomenally well, stepping from rock to rock, scooting over logs, and ducking under branches.

We had probably walked for about half an hour when Elliot let out a cry. His hand had touched some stinging nettle. We tried to numb the pain with some mud, but didn’t have much luck. I went to grab his arm to help him balance on a rock when I felt something sharp as well. Apparently, some nettle had gotten stuck to Elliot’s coat and had lodged itself in my right hand. Although it was an accident, I was actually thankful that I could empathize better with my son. That weed lived up to its name. It stung!

Alice also ended up getting some lodged in her legs and Elliot ended up getting poked at least two more times. The pain would come and go, but he had lost his cheer. I figured this might be the nail in the coffin for Linda Falls. The bats had seemed like a year ago.

And it actually had been awhile. I’m guessing we hiked for nearly an hour when we realized we were not above the falls but below them, which meant we would have to backtrack, uphill, through more stinging nettle. Matthew took out his phone and noted that we were below Linda Falls Terrace. Thinking about all that could go wrong on the way back, I suggested we head up the hill and see if we could make it to the road.

It was a STEEP climb up. Later, when I recounted the hill to Sara, Alice chimed in, “It wasn’t a hill! It was more like a cliff!” We might have climbed for 10 minutes, but it seemed like 30. C, Z, and A moved up like little mountain goats as Matthew followed behind. I was grateful that Elliot couldn’t keep up with them as it allowed me to take breaks. My sweatshirt was soaked with sweat, my jeans were caked with dirt, and my mask was damp. The kids gamely kept theirs on the whole time, even though I suggested to Elliot that he could rest since we were a ways behind. I ended up having to take a couple breathers.

As we were paused for a bit, a brick-sized rock went rolling down just about a foot to Elliot’s right. I didn’t even process it until it was basically past him, but it felt like too close a call. We preceded cautiously. Fortunately, the exhausting ascent and brush with falling rocks allowed us to take our minds off of the stinging nettle. My calves were on fire as we trudged the last few feet to meet our group at a more level area. We walked through areas infested with poison oak and eventually made it to the road. We hopped one fence and Karisse graciously rescued us. The journey had taken a solid two hours.

We were soaked in sweat and our skin was full of nettle poison, but there was a joy and relief as we headed back, with the windows down and the wind in our hair.

And you know what words I didn’t hear? I never heard the words that we would never be going back to Linda Falls. Even after all of the struggle. I was one proud dad.

We all showered with Dawn soap and nobody got poison oak. The nettle stuck with us for over 24 hours, but thankfully Elliot’s went away first, and that made him feel pretty good. It was actually a way of bonding too, just checking in on our nettle hands and legs throughout the day.

It’s great to have friends that push you to be more adventurous and brave. And it’s great to have kids who aren’t going to quit after a few falls.

Innerd Being

December 22, 2020

Elliot had run out of options. His friends down the street had just left for vacation. His sister had just started a marathon craft session video chat with a friend. His mother was getting some much-deserved office time. He slumped on the couch, lamenting his solitary confinement.

I can understand why he felt this way. It’s been a strange and busy year for me, and I am not often option A. During the weekdays, after I get home from work, I usually have time to play a video game on demand (almost always Sonic the Hedgehog), before we eat together. Then there’s sometimes time for a brief wrestling session before bath/storytime or a movie depending on the day.

On the weekends, my dad game has suffered with the pandemic. I can no longer take the kids to museums, parks, malls, or Indian buffets. So Elliot spends most of the time with the neighbors, looking for bugs, jumping on a trampoline, and solving the world’s problems. I am so thankful for this social outlet and that he has good friends, but I do miss time with my boy. Since I am Alice’s teacher this year (a future post in the making for sure), the drop off with her seems less noticeable.

So today was a perfect opportunity for some son-father bonding. We played some soccer outside, an exhausting game in the unseasonably warm December weather that he won 10-8. I read four chapters of the brilliant book, Coyote Sunrise, while he drew pictures. We downloaded a game called Pocket Ants where you play the role of an ant in its colony, and navigated that together for a bit. But eventually, his screen time timer ran out, and even after all that, his sister was still crafting and his mom was still at the office. So it was time for something new. More specifically, it was time for a new podcast.

And while there are innumerable podcasts out there, it wasn’t hard to zero in on a topic for Elliot. Bugs. Or if you ask him, “You mean insects?” Yes, son. Insects. Your father is so basic sometimes.

I initially tried using “insects (bugs) for kids” as my search terms. And while I found a few that sounded interesting, Elliot quickly timed out since he had already heard mostly everything they talked about. Or at the very least, he convincingly claimed that he did. Regardless of the veracity of his claims, the music was cheesy, the hosts talked like they were talking to little kids, or they just simply weren’t that good. There was a podcast that was fairly impressive, where a kid actually started his own show about insects and went around interviewing various experts. Unfortunately for that kid, Elliot is used to more polished shows like Wow in the World, and the interview style wasn’t as compelling as he was used to. So eventually, I increased my search parameters to any bug (I mean insect) podcast and settled on The Arthro-Pod.

Bingo.

“I like this music!” said Elliot as he danced around the room during the title credits. The hosts were three professors, one from the University of Kentucky, one from the University of Nebraska, and one from Penn State. The first episode we listened to was about catching bugs, which of course Elliot was into. We learned about light traps, funnels, and something called malaise nets. We also branched out and watched a short YouTube video on how to catch aquatic bugs. It was good stuff. I found myself stopping to listen as I tried to multi-task and grade papers.

But for the second episode, Elliot found The Perfect One, picking it as he read episode titles. Apparently, two of the hosts were really huge Pokemon fans as kids, so while the third host (who was not a fan) was away, they decided to just nerd out on all the entomological influences found in Pokemon. According to the hosts, the creator of Pokemon, Satoshi Tajiri, loved entomology in his youth and actually considered being an entomologist. So the hosts talked about what a person could learn about insects through Pokemon, problematic/inaccurate depictions, and of course, personal favorites.

As they were getting ready to start, Elliot ran over and grabbed his Pokemon guide so he could cross-reference creatures when they talked about them in the podcast! He was also right with them in their conversations, and very frequently started talking with them as if three friends were having a conversation. It led to some memorable exchanges, including these:

Host: You can’t leave an ant lion out of the entomological research.

Elliot [without missing a beat]: True.

Host: One thing I’m not a fan of is Combee evolving to be Vespiquen.

Elliot: Me neither.

At one point he was literally standing on the piano bench just hanging on their every word. What a lovable nerd! This made me so incredibly happy. He had found his tribe.

I think one of the hardest things for a person is feeling like they are alone. Not in regard to proximity with others, or feeling loved, which Elliot has both of, but just the feeling of being understood. I’ve spent most of my life not really feeling understood. I’ve been able to connect with people in many different ways, and definitely feel loved now, but I’ve also spent a lot of my life feeling like the alien or robot in a sci-fi movie that knew it wasn’t quite the same as the rest.

However, in the past few years, I have felt a core connection with others. And strangely, it’s with people I’ve never met.

A few years ago, I started listening to comedy podcasts while doing the dishes and cleaning. I originally did it for entertainment as it helped me pass the time. But soon I noticed something. It wasn’t all comedians or comedy podcast hosts, but a lot of them were indeed like me. Pretty quiet yet wanting attention, empathetic yet egocentric, able to listen carefully yet almost unable to mute their minds. I started to feel not so alone, not so alien. There were others out there who thought and talked like me. I had found my tribe. There’s something intimate about having someone speak thoughts through earbuds, as if those thoughts are coming directly from your head. I really wish I had podcasts as a kid.

So today did my heart so much good to see Elliot experience a sense of connection at such a young age. Thankfully, it won’t take the place of human connection. He will still want to jump on the trampoline with friends, make up silly stories with his sister, snuggle his mom, and wrestle his dad. But I think that finding connections with the strangers in his headphones will actually enhance his other relationships, as he gains confidence while feeling just a little less alone. So glad there are fertile podding options to help a budding entomologist grow.

Once a Pun a Time

December 13, 2020

Once there was a dad who made a colossal mistake. He sent his son into a bedtime tailspin by pointing out that there was a certain inconsistency in energy level before and after the “it’s time to go to bed” announcement. Rather than dealing with it directly and helping his boy, he complained to his wife about the level of irrationally as if he, the father, were the victim.

Fortunately, the daughter of the house, perceiving that her father would be of no help, came up with a solution. “I’m going to come up with puns to connect places with nature to cheer my brother up,” she thought. So she came up with Washington Deep Sea and Beejing and then went to enlist her previously useless dad’s help, which in the process, also cheered up the triggerer. After they added to the list together, she went back to tear central. “You want to do a game?” she asked the triggered.

The crying stopped. Instantly. Could not have been more abrupt.

The Happy End

Save the Date

May 18, 2019

On April 22, Alice and I had a random day off of school. Since Sara was teaching and Elliot was studenting, it seemed like the ideal time for a daddy-daughter date. I hoped we could see some flowers, and poppies in particular. The Internet told me to head to Point Reyes and the Chimney Rock Trail.

We had a great car ride, talking the whole time. We talked about her social life at school, sibling relationships, and sports. We also talked about her commercial idea for a satirical site called celebritybarfbags.com. It just came up. In this commercial, various celebrities from Hollywood, sports, and music would talk about their experiences and how CBBs saved them. Fortunately, all this talk did not cause the oft-carsick Alice to toss her cookies or anything else.

We stopped in Point Reyes Station for a pastry, perused a bookstore, and then headed out to the the CRT. When we arrived, it was windy, so we ate our sack lunches in the car and started our hike. There were a decent number of wildflowers, but it was no super bloom. Nevertheless, we had fun playing in the wind, racing along trails, and spotting Indian paintbrush. We also spotted some seals on a beach below the trail and had fun winding our way down and checking them out. In addition to the elephant seals, we also encountered a school field trip. I explained to Alice the overwhelming joy of seeing a group of students that I am not leading.

We spent a few moments hanging out with the seals, assigning them names and backstories. We returned the way we came, but this time, Alice started feeling a bit carsick, so we stopped at a beach. While Alice searched for shells on the beach, something caught my eye. I walked closer to the water and picked up a nearly-intact sand dollar, the most complete I’d ever seen on a beach. Alice was impressed. We dipped our feet in the water for a bit and headed back.

On the way back, we were a bit quieter, both somewhat tired from our day. So I decided to introduce her to the music of my youth. We listened to Automatic for the People by R.E.M. She found the first few songs “interesting” aka “kind of weird,” but we had a nice talk about depression through “Everybody Hurts” and a fun conversation about rhyme as we listened to “Sweetness Follows”. Her favorite song seemed to be “Nightswimming” (strings!) and she also approved of “Find the River” which made my heart happy. We pulled into our hometown just as the album was ending.

Although we didn’t find all the flowers we were looking for, we saw seals and sand dollars and made some lovely memories. At our respective ages, I think we could go almost anywhere and have a good time. Alice is one of easiest people to hang out with, a positive kiddo with an appreciation for the absurd.   I am hoping for another date in the near future and am glad we won’t be out of time soon.

Not Getting His Wish

January 20, 2019

When I got home today, Sara shared some exciting news. Apparently, one of Elliot’s classmates is getting a new sibling. Sara asked Elliot if he would want a baby brother or baby sister. This was purely hypothetical and strongly prefaced, since our family of four is perfectly squared away. However, his response was crazy melty cool:

“I would want a baby sister, because Alice is so cool and talented. So if you had another girl, she would probably be like Alice. Then she might be in kindergarten and I would be in the first grade, so I would play with her at school.”

So aside from the fact that he doesn’t seem to exactly understand time (or plans on flunking multiple times), I thought this was pretty much the sweetest response ever. Almost enough to try for that baby sister. Almost. Well, not really, but bless his always-will-be-a-little-brother heart.

She’s the Cheesiest

January 16, 2019

Tonight, while Alice was taking her bath, I read her a chapter of the book Raymie Nightingale by Kate DiCamillo. The story is DiCamillo at her best: quirky three-dimensional characters, an innocent yet introspective voice, and a darkness not seen in the conventional kid book.

The scene unfolds this way:

Raymie stands with her friend Beverly Tapinski in her father’s insurance office. He has left his family and run off with the dental hygienist. She hasn’t seen him since then, and she has just given up on her plan to win the Little Miss Central Florida Contest—the long-shot way to win fame and summon her daddy back. Heavy stuff. Heavy enough for Raymie to think—Tell me, why does the world exist?

Of course, I was unable to ruminate on Raymie’s existential crisis, because I was immediately interrupted by a slight splash from the tub, an arm raised in the air, and a proclamation from Alice—

“For nachos!”

I will never leave you, kid, I thought.

 

Well Rum Pa Pum Pum

December 23, 2018

Mary nodded, pa rum pa pum pum
The ox and lamb kept time, pa rum pa pum pum
I played my drum for Him, pa rum pa pum pum
I played my best for Him, pa rum pa pum pum,
Rum pa pum pum, rum pa pum pum
Then He smiled at me, pa rum pa pum pum
Me and my drum

Up until last week, I had misinterpreted “The Little Drummer Boy” for nearly 40 years. I understood that the drummer boy didn’t have much. Apparently, he had a drum. It’s unclear about whether or not he had sticks. I understood what the song seems to be conveying—give your best no matter what you have. I understood that Mary, the ox, the lamb (or ass, depending on how many giggles you want out of your stage performers), and baby Jesus all dug the drum solo.

However, I made an assumption that I now believe to be incorrect. I believed that the little drummer boy was a previously-unrecognized prodigy who pounded that percussion so perfectly, he made the unmentioned Joseph take out his iPhone and immediately add the performance to his latest Instagram story. I thought the drummer boy’s rhythms were worthy of a fist bump from Questlove.

Then I saw my son’s school program.

During the lead-up to Elliot’s Christmas program, we had absolutely no idea what to expect. He didn’t seem to know any lyrics, he was clueless about a costume, and he generally seemed like Will Smith and Tommy Lee Jones had zapped him with a pageantry-specific amnesia device.

We showed up Thursday night with precious little knowledge about the performance before letting our son wander off to the back with his teacher. The printed program revealed that Elliot’s class would be performing “The Little Drummer Boy” (aka “The Carol of the Drum”). Soon the canned music started up and we saw Elliot walking down the aisle with a jembe drum in his arms and a smile on his face. He and his classmates then proceeded to hit the drum whenever the singer on the CD would say rum pa pum pum. I’m guessing that the class average for beats on rhythm was around 12% and probably 5-10% of those were just fortunate coincidences. Elliot was especially challenged, since the drum was nearly his size and a bit slippery to boot. He kept on having to grab it, turn it, and pull it back up, all while maintaining friendly eye contact with the audience. He even used his knee to boost the drum up a few times.

But through it all, he never seemed to get frustrated about his sliding drum. He never despaired that his classmates were getting more beats on rhythm. He kept a smile on his face for almost the entire time.

To a professional choir director, his performance may have seemed like chaos. At the very least, it was unpolished. But I could suddenly see clearly. The haphazard drumming in front of me was probably pretty close to what the drummer boy could muster. He’s no confident kid leading up to his solo. He’s insecure. Angsty. Interrogative. That’s not the attitude of the next Sheila E. Those are the inner workings of someone without much of a clue. Someone who missed several key practices.

Here’s further information to consider: When Mary nods, she’s nodding the nod of new mothers. That encouraging nod of things hoped for and not yet seen. The nod through pretend smiles and gritted teeth. One day he’ll figure this thing out. One day the money for these lessons will pay off. Sure the ox and ass (or lamb depending on whether you want to dress your performers in adorable headgear) kept time, but it’s not like these two animals have been known for their epic sense of rhythm. No music teacher has ever said, “You’ll need to get Junior a metronome…or a donkey.” And Jesus does indeed smile. But remember, babies smile about all kinds of less-than-impressive performances. A raspberry sound from your lips. Making your face appear and disappear. Barney. Not exactly the equivalent of a John Bonham solo.

Plus, a far-from-perfect performance meshes so much better with the Christmas story. Now the Nativity isn’t as calamity-packed at The Best Christmas Pageant Ever, but it certainly isn’t clean. And what could be more hope-filled than a mess? For the person who says the wrong thing at the office party, there’s the wisemen who accidentally tip-off the psychopath Herod about the baby. For the parents who use newspaper when the wrapping paper runs out, there’s Mary and Joseph putting Jesus in a hay-filled manger. For the newlywed spouses freaking out about spending time with their in-laws, there’s the shepherds who feel the sore-afraid feelings before any of the other feelings.

So when I see a school Christmas program, I don’t want to behold perfect rows of kids, precise timing, and crisply-delivered lines. I want to see children wandering around for their place on stage. I want to hear squishy Rs in need of speech therapy. I want to watch a struggling boy barely holding onto a drum, occasionally hitting the right beat, and joyfully smiling through all of it. I want a reminder that the Holiest of Holies came down to Earth, not to just clean up the mess, but to love it first.

Get Your Game on, Go Play

December 19, 2018

The time had come to see if my son was a gamer. His mother and sister were off on a date to see The Nutcracker. Over the last two days, he had developed a seemingly unquenchable obsession for Blokus (or Corners, as he called it), at which he could be legitimately competitive. But the real test lay in a small green box. Was Elliot ready for Catan Junior?

Although the game is a simplified version of Settlers of Catan (aka The Best Game to Ever Touch a Coffee Table), it contains complexity in regards to trading, using resources to build, and waiting when one doesn’t feel like waiting. In other words, not exactly the ideal skillset of a five-year-old. And while Elliot did have a problem trading his goats because, in his words, “The goaties are just so cute!” He navigated the nuance well.

In fact, he won his very first Catan Junior game in convincing fashion. He won through a skillful deployment of the Ghost Captain, an obsessive purchasing of Coco cards, and an impressive willingness to listen to advice. Although he had quite a bit of coaching throughout the process, his father did make him come up with the winning trades and building decisions on his own.

Upon vanquishing his old man, E was quite pleased. He eagerly agreed to a rematch. This time he received much less coaching, and lost in a very close game. However, he handled it very well. “I’m used to losing,” he said, rather matter-of-factly. And in that statement of younger sibling reality, I felt solidarity with my son. So I talked to him about my decade of defeat during my early years, intimating to him how valuable it was for me to lose early and often in life. He listened attentively and then challenged me to a game of Candyland.

We split those games too, and he handled both his triumphs and setbacks like a pro. Over my life, I’ve received so much joy out of game nights, but I’m not sure if there was ever a night that gave me as much happiness as tonight’s Son E Delight. In the very near future, I’m going to have to get used to losing again, and I couldn’t be happier about it.

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There He Goes

August 17, 2018

He kisses our hands. We tell him we love him. We tell him that he will have a good day. Then we step away from him, his mother and I. He comes back asking if we are going to leave. His mother is steady. “Your friend is waiting,” she tells him, and the boy with the Chinese dragon shirt walks back to his seat.

It feels strange as we walk away from our last child’s first day of school. Leading up to this day, we prayed that he would detach easily, but we had no idea it would be this seamless. We expected tears. Pleading. Twiggy arms wrapped around legs like ivy on Corinthian columns.

We half expect to hear footsteps following us to the car. Two-thirds expect to hear a shriek. Three-fourths expect to get a text message from the teacher, telling us that our son is crying in a corner. But instead, we make small talk with a few other parents and drive off.

During the day, I think about him often. I try to imagine what he is doing. Is he coloring carefully, tongue peeking out of his mouth? Is he eating the good stuff in his lunch first? Is he sliding down slides and running around with random abandon?

Seven hours later, we’re heading down the hill to pick up Mr. E. His teacher sees us coming. And just like that, he is in front of us, holding his froggy lunch box and pink gift bag. The dragon on his shirt eyes us coolly, but the boy beams with some pride over a first day finished and with a little relief that his parents have actually shown up.

On the ride back, he is a bit quiet. We pull remnants out about his day. He ended up getting some tears in his eyes during the day. He had to go to the bathroom a lot, but he knows the procedure. Later, over some first-day cookies from his cousin (aka his aunt), he reflects on his day: “I like school. Um…just this first day made me love it…without my parents.”

As the evening goes on, he starts to talk even more. He explains the lunch policy and how he can’t share food with classmates. He tells us about a little boy who seemed to miss his parents a lot. He talks about the classroom procedures. “Do you know what procedures are?” he asks. He tells me with urgency that he needs to remember something for show and tell. We settle on a Pokemon ball and some strange invertebrate character to pack inside.

There are a few near meltdowns, one over getting green paint in his yellow paint. His mother handles this by deftly placing a paper towel over the paint, which sops up the jealous green. The other bit of umbrage is over a worship story where a macaw has the audacity to defend its life against a cat. Apparently, the bird got a little too rough with the homicidal fur ball, so this sends him running off to bed.

Approaching tomorrow, there seems to be no anxiety from our schoolboy, only anticipation. He adores his teacher, and the feeling seems mutual. One day down, 179 to go. But before the next day comes, I’ll place a kiss on his sleeping forehead, tell him I love him, and perchance to dream of twisting ivy and dragons that are not quite ready to let go.

Son-o-grams

June 22, 2018

A few days ago, I noticed that the vast majority of my recent Facebook posts were focused on my daughter. Her violin recitals, ballet recitals, school programs, cheese-related artwork, etcetera etcetera and so forth. Make no mistake, she continues to be great. However, I’d like a certain four-year-old to get a little shine as well. And what better place than here on the QD?

  1. He’s a Nerd: Elliot is really passionate about critters. He is especially intrigued by insects right now. He loves reading about them, watching Bug Wars with his grandpa, and, most of all, seeing them in the wild. Last week, while on a walk with his grandparents, he saw a scorpion. Although no Elliots were harmed via sting, the scorpion almost caused Elliot’s demise, since it nearly made him explode with excitement.
  2. He Likes the Underdog: For the most part, Elliot doesn’t care one iota about sports. He will occasionally watch with me, like he did for the NBA Playoffs, but he’s much more interested in the commercials. When he does watch, he consistently asks me which team is losing so he can root for them. He also tends to like animals that aren’t appreciated as much, hence his love for Jerusalem crickets and cockroaches.
  3. He Lacks Guile: I love the innocence of this age. It seems like kids are unapologetic about owning their awesomeness. While it is rather odious on adults, it is pretty refreshing on a kid. Some of my favorite Elliot quotes that typify this state:
    1. “I did a really good job on this!”
    2. “I’m doing pretty well right now.”
    3. “I learned this new skill really well!”
  4. He Brings the Funny: It’s such a relief that my kids have a good sense of humor. One of our inside jokes revolves around the word lasers. One time Elliot was making shooting noises and poking at me, so I told him that whenever he said lasers I would tickle him. Somehow he agreed to this rule. I try to get him to say it, and he just smiles and laughs and says, “No, because you’re going to tickle me if I do!” Sometimes he’ll say it and run away. Other times he alludes to it just to tempt fate. He also enjoys saying crazy random stuff and enjoys entertaining with his crazy dance moves as well. Lately, he’s taking some joy in making some ridiculous stories that ramble on and on. Fortunately, they clearly amuse him, which in-turn amuses me as well.

Like a sonogram, the picture isn’t perfectly clear about the person Elliot will be. However, I’m extremely excited to see how the picture develops over these years.